"TRUST" is a very strange thing. How do we give it? Why do we take it away? How many kinds are there?

 

Trusting people is an interesting thing to talk about.

 

Why are there people who always trust in others and others that never trust people? Does it have to do with life experience? Does it have any "memory effect"? I mean, the fact that one person in whom we trusted failed us has anything to do with another person? Which are the probabilities that the next person will fail us? I think there are none. Mathemathics or engineers would say that it follows a Poisson Distribution. One situation has nothing to do with the one that has happened just before and the one that is going to happen afterwards.

 

To trust or not to trust. That's the question. What makes a person stop trusting another? What reinforces the trusting feeling?

 

I think trust is one thing you have to work on. Well, first, you give the other person a 100% white card of trust or 80% or 20% depending on your life experiences and what you think you feel like giving. Then, is a building process that takes time. I mean, you have to work on it. Cant pretend to keep on with that "100% trust credit" forever without doing anything. It fades away with time. You have to keep on and work on it.

 

Trust can grow. You can start a 20% trusting-relation with another person, and by showing how you are in life, interacting with the other, you can make it go up: 30%,50%...100%. It can also go down to 0%.

 

0% trust in a person is quite easy.Anyone can do it, but to get into a interaction with 100% trust both ways is very very difficult. Hard to get, even harder to keep. Gotta be sure of what you want. Know the other will be there for you always. No matter what, no matter when or where.

 

I know most of the times i give a 80% or even 95% white-trusting card to people at first. I think everyone should give anyone a first chance. No prejudgements. A clean white card to start with. Cant say a robber will be a robber forever. Cant tell when a person will change and start acting differently...I also know it goes down pretty fast once someone has failed me. Things can go high again, but normally, never as high as the first time, depending on what happened. Trust is still there, but is not the same.

 

A few people have gone up or stayed up for a long long time in my "trusting list". Those i call my friends. Yes, sometimes the percentage goes up and down, but they are always over 90%. They have my time, my effort, myself whenever they'd need me. I hope you know who you are. If you "think" you are, then you're not. If you are, you'll know it.

 

MiG