I know it's been a while since my last post here, and the main reason fot that is that i've been trying out a new Blog in WordPress.com.

So, I'm moving. From now on i will keep on with "Michan Adventures" in a whole new place which i think will be better.

 

I'll keep on posting a few things here from time to time also, but not as regularily as before.

 

The new address is easier to remember:

 

 

Go check it out!

 

MiG

A fantastic idea! Please give it a look. To make the long story short, the main idea is: People who travel around the world need a place to stay, people to meet in the places they go to and info about where to go. The network provides all these and much more.

 

If you like to travel, you cannot miss this site!

 

MiG

I'm back from almost a month travelling across southeastern europe. I've seen things you wouldnt imagine, met wonderful people which i like to call now friends, experienced many things...I'm full of good moments. The best thing above all was to re-discover a friend.Iñaki, without whom this trip would never had been the same.

 

I've learned a lot. About others and about myself too. I realized about many facts that i just wasnt aware of. There are MANY people out there worth spending time with. This trip has been like a fountain of knowledge. More precisely, like a guide to rediscover things in life. The beauty of things and people. Trust them, and know everyone has something to teach you. Everyone.

 

This has been too the trip where i realized anyone can make his own luck. We are masters of our destiny. We really can make things happen if we believe in ourselves and put our heart into whatever the task is. There has been many situations where anyone would have said "I was lucky", but after SO MANY, i agree with Iñaki: This cant be JUST luck. Its a fact. You gotta make your own luck. Cant sit and wait for it to come.

 

To sum up: Thanks Iñaki. Thanks to all the people we've met in these wonderful 3 weeks of travel. Thank y'all for making my trip such an awesome experience that will for sure make me grow as a better person and help me see things, judge situations and enjoy many more experiences from another point of view.

"TRUST" is a very strange thing. How do we give it? Why do we take it away? How many kinds are there?

 

Trusting people is an interesting thing to talk about.

 

Why are there people who always trust in others and others that never trust people? Does it have to do with life experience? Does it have any "memory effect"? I mean, the fact that one person in whom we trusted failed us has anything to do with another person? Which are the probabilities that the next person will fail us? I think there are none. Mathemathics or engineers would say that it follows a Poisson Distribution. One situation has nothing to do with the one that has happened just before and the one that is going to happen afterwards.

 

To trust or not to trust. That's the question. What makes a person stop trusting another? What reinforces the trusting feeling?

 

I think trust is one thing you have to work on. Well, first, you give the other person a 100% white card of trust or 80% or 20% depending on your life experiences and what you think you feel like giving. Then, is a building process that takes time. I mean, you have to work on it. Cant pretend to keep on with that "100% trust credit" forever without doing anything. It fades away with time. You have to keep on and work on it.

 

Trust can grow. You can start a 20% trusting-relation with another person, and by showing how you are in life, interacting with the other, you can make it go up: 30%,50%...100%. It can also go down to 0%.

 

0% trust in a person is quite easy.Anyone can do it, but to get into a interaction with 100% trust both ways is very very difficult. Hard to get, even harder to keep. Gotta be sure of what you want. Know the other will be there for you always. No matter what, no matter when or where.

 

I know most of the times i give a 80% or even 95% white-trusting card to people at first. I think everyone should give anyone a first chance. No prejudgements. A clean white card to start with. Cant say a robber will be a robber forever. Cant tell when a person will change and start acting differently...I also know it goes down pretty fast once someone has failed me. Things can go high again, but normally, never as high as the first time, depending on what happened. Trust is still there, but is not the same.

 

A few people have gone up or stayed up for a long long time in my "trusting list". Those i call my friends. Yes, sometimes the percentage goes up and down, but they are always over 90%. They have my time, my effort, myself whenever they'd need me. I hope you know who you are. If you "think" you are, then you're not. If you are, you'll know it.

 

MiG

I've been very active since i finished June exams. Havent really stopped doing stuff, going to places and meeting people. New friends and old ones. Always fun.

 

Time is my only problem now: I have so many stuff i'd like to do, places i'd love to go and sometimes its hard to leave some aside. How to fit everything in just 24 hours?

 

The more i talk with people lately, the more i see how thankful i have to be to live the life i'm living. SO GREAT. I'm not trying to get envious to anyone, but i'm so happy to be in my skin these days i have to cry it out loud.

 

Happiness, fullfilment. Doing what i really feel like doing without boundaries, limits. Just time, of course.

 

I've spent the last days in Galicia in a Celtic Music Festival, I showed around Madrid to some finnish girls from HospitalityClub, i've also picked up my Telecom Diploma from the Uni (how many years of "effort" rewarded at last!),i've been going out with friends, having drinks,talking and laughing. In one word: Enjoying Life.

 

I'm young (still), with more life experience, mature enough to know what i want, where i want to go (more or less), responsible...What else could i ask for right now?

 

IM HAPPY cos i know who I am and what i want.

Can this be possible? Indeed, there are many good and bad at the same time situations in life. The one i'm living right now is a typical one: After living away from your parents, you come back home for more than a weekend.

 

Yes ladies and gentlemen. This is the thing: I left my student flat from Alcala de Henares (Btw, dont send me any more postcards or letters there cos i aint going back). This is not different from other years, but the thing is, i planned some late-summer vacations this time with a friend and i HAVE TO stay at my parent's cos i really have no other place to go right now.

 

Being back home has a good side and a bad:

 

GOOD:

 

I dont have to cook and i always eat tasty food,dont have to clean the dishes,no need to do laundry,i get my shirts ironed everyday,i have internet 24/7,i'm all by myself at home (spoiled).

 

BAD:

 

I have to eat on time and cant choose the menu,i really do have to clean the dishes and dry them and put them back to the cupboard,my mother wakes me up at 7:30 everymorning asking for dirty clothes and doesnt stop until i give her something...so i sometimes have to give her my pijamas and keep sleeping naked cos otherwise..she wont STOP. Believe me!. I'm not with friends, i mean, internet is ok...but i rather stay at the bar chatting with people and laughing. I'm all by myself at home: My mother is after me all the time. Like my shadow. She is like a ninja chasing me around the house.Kinda annoying sometimes...but hey:

 

ITS ALL GOOD!

 

:O

That's pretty much the only thing i missed not doing last weekend :) (It's all good).

 

We had a lovely nice and sunny bbq day last sunday. We had wine,beer,coke,pork,lamb,sausages,salad,cake...anything one person could eat!

 

The swimming pool was good. The water wasnt very clean to tell the truth, but we surely had a very good time in there!

 

THANK Y'ALL FOR COMMING! :)

 

PS: Hope to get some more photos of that day. If you have any, send it to me, plz :)

Go wherever you feel like. Travel as long as you want. That's my purpose of life. That's what makes me happy.

 

I realized about this when i was planning my summer plans this past week. Travelling, visiting other countries, getting to know other people, other cultures,other points of view is what fulfills me. I make time for that.

 

I love to be surrounded by people who share this same thought. Travelling and meeting people.

 

I will soon add some photos of this summer trip i've planned to do with a friend of mine.Iñaki. We've already shared some travel experiences in China a couple of years ago. It was fun. I hope this time is fun too :)

 

Looking forward!

Indeed. If you could rate motivation from 0 to 10, 10 being SUPER motivated and willing to do whatever with a positive attitude and a big big smile on you face and 0 being not motivated at all, vegetating and just letting the life pass by with a passive attitude, not caring about anything and feeling your nails and hair grow, my level would be...1.5 or maybe 2 at the most.

 

I've been doing basically NOTHING for the past week and a half. And i mean NOTHING. I dont even go out and get drunk, party until dawn and sleeping all day. I dont watch the worldcup. I dont hang around with friends... I just wake up, and look at the watch. This situation is getting on my nerves.

 

All i'm doing is WAITING for wednesday 28th when i have my last exam.And no, i'm not studying either. I just dont feel in the mood, you know. I know i should, but i just do whatever to avoid sitting:

 

Open the fridge like a trillion times (the fridge is almost empty), Sit in the sofa in front of the TV (It's broken, so i dont really watch it), Look through the window people pass by... I just cant wait to do the exam and get it over with!!!

 

I know i have to study hard and keep my mind busy, cos i've already planned a megacool summer, and i know i will feel guilty if i dont make an effort now! Suggestions on how to handle these kinds of situations will be highly appreciated. Thanks!

 

Chop chop

MiG

 

It's amazing how people hear what they want to hear. What they're looking for. They filter the info from outside and just let pass the one that is "useful" for them. What makes sense for them.

 

I've noticed that when i tell a story, exactly the same story, the message people get is totally different depending on what they're life is like. They just remember or hear whatever is more important to them. Example (not really true story):

 

"In a China roundtrip i did last year, my ex-girlfriend and I used to argue a lot about wether we should rent a car or travel by public transport"

 

People could ask me:

1.- Have you been to China? Amazing!...
2.- So, you had a girlfriend. How was she?
3.- I thought you didnt argue and were more laid back
4.- What kind of car did you rented?

 

Obviously, they ask or talk about what really concerns them at that moment in their lives.In this example, number 1 is really into trips, and doesnt really care about the rest. He is focused on trips and didnt pay much attention to the other facts. Number 2 is more into personal stuff. It doesnt even matter if you were in China or Peru. The important thing for this person is that i had a girlfriend, but not anymore...Number 3, number 4...different points of view.

 

So, people just listen to what they are into. What is important to them. I guess this is the same thing that happens to everyone in many other situations in our life.

 

Why do we always remember the name of that good looking person we met last weekend, but not his/her friends?

I'm happy. Stupid happy. (No no, i'm not in-love-stupid happy).

 

I'm happy cos things are moving along quite well lately. Yes. Some unexpected good stuff have popped up in my golden-bricks path to hapiness.

 

1.- The place i'm living in its as clean as it could be

 

This might be stupid, but seeing and living in a good-looking place cheers me up a lot. Cleanness,tidyness...i love that. How good is a nice place if it's all covered with dirt and messy?. This way is MUCH MUCH better.

 

2.- I had a 9 (out of 10) in my German exam

 

It means a lot to me. I like languages and this is a good feedback for me to continue on my hobbies. Another girl and myself were the only ones to get the highest mark of the class. Good job.

 

3.- Summer is comming

 

This means travel. And you know how much i like that. :). I am planning a trip with a friend (Iñaki) to go to Slovenia and Croatia. It's all on the air, but i'm looking forward for it. Also planning to go to Barcelona to see a friend and to Nantes to see my brother.Good Good Good.AND there is August too!

 

4.- I was called for a Job interview

 

Ok. This is good, cos I finally decided (I dont think i told anyone lately) that the best thing to do was keep on with my Master studies and get some experience working (not money, but experience in telecom related jobs). This is a good chance, but the only bad thing is that i would start (if i get the job) in July. This would mean bye bye to number 3. I'll have to see what's up, what they offer me and think about it. But hey! :) i shouldnt worry for something that is not even sure yet. Besides, it has to be REALLY good in order for me to give up on my summer travel plans...

 

 

So far so good :)

 

For people who “Sorry” seems to be the hardest word, I’m pretty sure “Thank you” comes in second place. How hard can saying THANK YOU can be?

 

I’ve been raised in a family where “Thank you” and “Please” were used (and still being used)  very often. Maybe so often than I just sometimes don’t really mean it. It’s like “you know?”, ”right?”, ”innit?” at the end of a sentence. But still, I think those short words make a big difference to me.

 

Someone can tell me to go to hell, and if they say “please” at the end, I wouldn’t take it so offensive. On the other hand, the same person can tell me to move away, and I can take it badly. I might be reading too much into this thing, but its just that I see that Spanish people tend to not say it as much as I think they should.

 

Does it happen to you too? Where did i park it?

 

I sometime spend more than 3 minutes trying to remember where i parked my car. I'm lucky my neighborhood is not big, cos sometimes i've been wondering around looking for my car.

 

It doesnt happen to me with other things. Keys, wallet...i always remember where i left them. But the car...MAN!

 

I have to admit i even took a picture of my car once to remember  quicker where it was the following day.

 

There are certain kinds of people who are just noisy. If someone asked you about them like “What is he like?” The first thing that comes to your head is “Noisy motherfucker”.

People make noises and they normally don’t pay attention to them. Noises with their body (farting, burping, sneezing, snoaring…) Ok, there are some you can not help from time to time, but others…I mean, what’s the point of burping out loud ALWAYS?

 

I just don’t get it.

 

Talking about noises, there are also ones people make with stuff. Like the car. Why do people honk all the time and for no apparent reason? Is it like the dogs? They’re just saying “hi” when they drive around town.

 

Hey John! (honk)
Hey Bill! (honk honk)
See ya around (honk)
Ok. Bye (honk honk)

 

I don’t get this either.

 

The reason I’m talking about this is very simple. I’ve been trying to study last week and all I could hear were noises. Not that I usually care, but I guess than the more you want silence, the more attention you pay to all noises around you. And I just realised I’m living in a pretty noisy neighbourhood.

 

A mad student

 

How many times has a person lied to your face and you knew he/she was lying? I dont mean you THINK or you FEEL the other is lying. I'm talking about these times when you KNOW it's a lie.

 

I hate it when the other lies and act as if he was telling the truth, without knowing that you KNOW what the real truth is. It's funny.Sad funny when you find yourself in these kind of situations.

 

Sometimes you dont say anything and just keep pretending you dont know, but others, you just have to say it 'cos the other is playing with you. I dont care if the lie is stupid. I just dont want to be taken for a stupid if the lie is not.

 

So, before you lie to someone, first, make sure the other person doesnt know the truth,would you? It's the best way to avoid unconfortable surprises.

 

I need to have a plan before i make a move. "Insecurity" some may say. Maybe they're right. But i like to know where i'm going to. Set a goal and go for it.

 

Im the kind of person who always takes a look at the last page of a book to know how long it is, how long it is going to take me, how I should read it.

 

Other people are right the opposite. They start without caring about the end. They just start and whatever happens, happens. I admire this, cos i'm unable to do it without feeling unconfortable. Without feeling fear.

 

I'm not talking just about reading a book or a magazine, but also about life. Yes. I like to know where i'm going to in life. Or an idea of where i want to go. Set a goal and a plan to get to it. Some people just live their lives, waiting for whatever happens and taking decissions as they get to a crossroad.I just cant.Not in the same way at least.

 

I know is totally useless most of the time, but i like to have a plan "just in case". I cant help it. I know: It's impossible to think about EVERYTHING that can happen. How many things can go wrong or differently than expected? (Murphy: If something can go wrong, it'll go worse)

 

If something unexpected happens, then i know the unexpected thing is XXX away from my expectations. Is far or close to my plan. I need to have a point of reference. Know where i am. Is this the right way to live life? I just can say that is the way i live it.

First say to yourself what you would be;
and then do what you have to do.
•Epictetus

 

I just wanted to say THANK YOU for those comments i've been receiving lately.

 

Feedback is very important and helps out a lot :)

 

Hope y'all keep on reading and writing...And talking!

 

MiG

 

Writing is good. If fact, its the best way so far i've found out to be relaxing. It's relaxing to me cos i express myself freely. No tabus nor boundaries. It helps me sorten out my thoughts, know what i think, how i think and how i feel about a certain issue.

 

By writing i take out all my stress. My thoughts. My feelings. Then, i read what i've written. Once or twice. This helps me reconsider my thoughts to either dismiss or reafirm myself. See how i express myself and know me better.

 

Once i know what i think and how i feel about a thing, it's time to talk and share opinions, to once again dismiss or reafirm myself in my position. Talking about a thing is difficult for me if i dont know what i think about it.

Talking is good. Listening to people is even better. I get surprised many times, because there are very true things i never thought about and would never had considered if i didnt have a conversation.

I think i tend to mild my speech when i talk. I dont fully say what i think. Well, i guess i say what i think, but its just that i dont express myself the same way as i think.

 

I know my thoughts are sometimes agressive or radical, and this can be bad for the communication with others. I hold myself the most when i am angry. When i am mad i can really be cruel, i know. I need to take a walk and chill before i say something i regret. That much i know about me.

 

So, to sum up: Write, Read and Talk as much as you can!

 

 

Dont look away. They'll stay there forever. Well..."maybe if you dont look long enough"...NO. A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.

 

People have rights. And duties. You just cant walk around claiming for your rights if you havent done your duties. First duties, then rights (or at least at the same time). The same thing happens when someone tells you (not ask, but TELL you) what to do.

 

You cant say one thing and do another. Dont expect that the "do-as-i-say-but-not-as-i-do" policy will get you far in this life. You just cant say "Be quiet" while you're talking as if it was the last thing you were gonna do in your life. Or "Dont smoke" while enjoying a Montecristo.

 

If you want to ask for something to another person, you have to do it yourself first. Cant tell a person to clean his own room if yours is a mess. People wont take you seriously.

 

People who do this just make me laugh.It's so sad. When someone who is telling you to do one thing is doing right the opposite in front of your face, how can you listen to a person like this? I cant.

 

So, if someone is telling me to "stand up and move your butt" while he is sitting doing nothing, the only thing i can tell to this person is to "take a coke and smile and shut the fuck up".

 

 

I am happy these days because life is giving me the chance to see things i havent been aware of until now. This is letting me know myself better and grow personally, or at least, consider more facts kept hidden to my sight for so long until today.Everyday i learn a lesson. I change (or should i better say broaden) my view of the things in life. It's a lot of fun to realize some things.Let me explain...

As much as its important to know what you're good at, being able to be autocritic and know and realize your own weaknesses is very very important too. Take a step to the side and watch yourself, how you behave, how you talk.

 

Its not as easy as it seems. I know people who just dont want to see. They lie to themselves in order not to have problems with what they do and what they think. Instead of really changing what they think, they just lie to themselves with pityfull lies to keep a certain consistancy between what they say/think and what they do. Lie to oneself is one of the worst things one can do. It doesnt matter how much you tell them, nothing will make them see the truth unless they want to see it. And this is not easy, because they have to be mentally ready and prepared.

 

Everybody can say "I take things too seriously","I never end what i start","I'm not punctual","I always leave the things for the last minute", "I'm never admit that i'm wrong"...but just a few can really understand how these things affect on their own lifes and when interacting with other people. How can this affect relations in the interacting society we're living in nowadays. Personally and professionally.

 

Being autocritic, as i see things, means being able to realize your weaknesses. Or what you can consider a weakness. Something you do when being with others that makes your interaction with them not to run as smoothly as they should. This, of course, might change from one person to another, but i think we can all agree that there are certain undeniable behaviours we cant turn our heads off and expect them to just go away as if they never existed.

 

I know a few of my weaknesses: lazyness,jealousy,lack of communication...i know i have more, but i wont put them all here :). All these facts wouldnt even matter if i was living all alone by myself in this planet, but when it comes to living with others, they can become very important.

 

Being autocritic doesnt mean you have to just KNOW your weaknesses, but also WORK on them. Be brave, face the facts and accept them as they are. Dont try to hide them. Dont take them as a bad thing, just as something you have to work on. Be aware, realize the facts and try to make them smaller, work on yourself to become a stronger and a better person. Some of these "attitudes" we will never be able to control and they'll be with us until we die, but others, we can minimize them to the point that they're not a problem whatsoever when interacting with others.

 

 

Know yourself. Work on yourself. Face your weaknesses to build a much better person. Improve yourself and become the person you'd like to be. Put a smile on your face, be optimistic and get started!.Right now is a good time to do it. Just try and see.

Act the way you'd like to be and
soon you'll be the way you act.
•George W. Crane